A blogger and mom of 5 is expressing her thankfulness after a lady came to her rescue following a defence she done on Facebook surrounding her black daughter’s haircare.
“Dear Black Friends of Social Media / This clueless white momma is humbly entrance to we to ask your assistance with Haley’s hair,” Stephanie Hollifield wrote on Facebook Nov. 9, sharing a image of her darling 2-year-old portrayal a Thanksgiving turkey picture.
“I have asked my friends. we have asked strangers in Publix with kids with lovable hair, and I’m still not removing it,” she continued, describing her several-step slight that still led to “trauma” in Haley’s “daily hair combing” sessions notwithstanding her best efforts. “I desperately wish to get this right!”
Within an hour of posting, Hollifield — who is mom to Haley and four other children ages 2 to 9 — perceived “dozens of comments” containing “helpful, encouraging, useful advice,” including from a lady named Monica Hunter who showed adult at Hollifield’s doorstep to uncover her a ropes.
“She came to my home a integrate of days after with a basket full of supplies, products and combs,” Hollifield wrote in a November blog post. “My daughter immediately took to Monica, and sat right in her path as she bound her hair.”
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“Monica explained accurately what styles and haircare slight my daughter indispensable right now. What we had missed in all of a prior recommendation I’d perceived was a thought that we would be means to do elementary protecting styles during home,” Hollifield recalled. “What we didn’t know we indispensable was for someone to be by my side and travel me by accurately what stairs to follow.”
“She gave me headbands, products and combs,” she remarked. “She wouldn’t accept my income in return. we was in awe of her beauty and her kindness. She took time divided from her family to assistance me, when she had zero to gain.”
And a formula were astonishing. “Haley’s hair looked adorable, and she kept looking in a counterpart while touching her new puffs saying, ‘So pretty!’ ” Hollifield wrote. “She kept hugging me and afterwards hugging her new friend, Mrs. Monica. we don’t consider we had ever seen Haley grin so big.”
Hunter, a mom of three, told NowThis of her revisit with Hollifield, “We’re a lot some-more comparison than we are different. And if we can come together and assistance any other, that’s what we all should be doing. … I’m a black mom with black children and we still have to ask questions on how to understanding with their healthy hair.”
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“As moms, we get it, that we don’t have a answers to everything, so it takes a lot of disadvantage to do it,” she combined in a corner interview.
Telling Hunter on NowThis that her “openness meant a world” to her, Hollifield combined in her blog that a span “chatted about hair, marriage, friendship, parenting, preparation and competition issues” and that she “got so most some-more than recommendation and confidence in regulating my daughter’s hair” — namely, Hunter’s loyalty and a essential realization.
“For a minute, we couldn’t know since Monica’s act of munificence was so intolerable to people,” she wrote. “Then, it clicked. It is newsworthy since this is so uncommon. So inspirational. In a country, where all seems so divisive, this still act of affability spoke aloud to people from all walks of life.”
“This is newsworthy since Monica saw a need that she could meet and she did something about it. As elementary and as formidable and honest as that. This is rare. This is what we need some-more of,” Hollifield mused. “There are many opportunities to make someone’s day brighter in a bland lives. When we balance out a hatred and a divisiveness that seems so loud, we remember that we are all people who need any other.”